I write this sitting amongst the most scenic surroundings I ever witnessed. Everything around me is so calm and beautiful. I am settled comfortably in the verandah of my new home on the outskirts of the city. It is not just this morning but also many others that I can’t seem to let go of these solitude moments. No, I’m not thinking about where my next paycheck will come from or not even of my to-buy list. Its not that Bill Gates has adopted me, but I believe that every worry has its time and such peaceful moments are certainly not one of those. This is the time to see the puppies play with a piece of cloth, to watch the sky colours and the patterns of the clouds, to spoil the feet in the soil below and walk barefoot in the green grass. The butterflies hovering over the flowers are a pleasant site, just as beautiful as the sparrows hurrying around at the start of the day.
Life is certainly beautiful, God.
Truly said, beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. If I had rushed out of the house to catch some fast local train or a bus, worrying about the day ahead, I would have never noticed such calmness around me. Even though I do rush for the bus many a time, I stop in my tracks to appreciate the butterflies or the tender grass on the sideways. At that moment, I really do not care about losing my regular traffic. I know I have to give justice to the beauty that unfolds itself in front of my eyes. Then with a small smile at the corner of my lips and a song to match, I make my way ahead.
These moments energize a person to an extent that no fitness program can. This is the actual “natural healing”. And yes, Dr. God does not charge any session fees either.
Wanna take this “everlasting” offer?
Friday, July 01, 2005
Fly Away...
“They say life is a cobweb and not an organization chart. Wish it were so. Wish the calculations of life were simpler and the results more predictable…”
These thoughts crossed my mind as I bid goodbye to a close friend of mine. A person on way to her divorce. Third case that I knew amongst my friends.
She has been married for the past 4 years, and has a kid. From day one of her marriage, she witnessed an odd behavioral pattern of her husband. She has succumbed to his physical violence, mental harassments, all in the hope that things would work out well some day or other.
Almost similar are the cases of the other two of my friends. All three of them have now decided to break out of these barricades of relationships that have broken them down. They have decided to live life fully, new with the fresh breath of freedom that it would bring along with. Whatever happened till now in each of their lives has caused them enough pain. There have been times with my male friend & one of the female friends to succumb to the pressures & attempt suicide. But they have somehow survived out of it till now, and as I believe, for a reason.
Earlier, as I came close to each of these individuals, I was taken aback at the fragility of a relationship. I wondered as what it took for a marriage survive. One day as I talked it over to another close friend of mine he commented that it was plain understanding that one needed. One need not carry on with a relation that was proving to be unhealthy to the individual. A relation should not pose as suffocation; it rather should give you the support and energy that one requires while traveling from the downs of life.
In cases when the patience and energy of a person does not prove sufficient to work up on the relationship, one should just let it go – for the betterment of self and the other person.
All these friends of mine had expressed similar views over their divorces – they felt they were given a chance to enjoy life anew, freshly, without any chains of dead relations to hold them down.
Change is inevitable, even in relationships. Hence one needs a maturity to understand the changes that are happening with the other person and adapt to them or rather be in pace with them.
Life is quite simple, it should be kept that way, he added. I mused over it, and concluded that it is rather foolish of us to expect our lives to remain, as they were, picturesque. Were it to be so, it would be an actual organization chart and not a roller coaster ride, with its highs & lows.
From the depths of my heart I wish my friends the best that life has to offer them. The tunnel of darkness has proved to be quite long for them; I wish them a bright & a sunny opening…
These thoughts crossed my mind as I bid goodbye to a close friend of mine. A person on way to her divorce. Third case that I knew amongst my friends.
She has been married for the past 4 years, and has a kid. From day one of her marriage, she witnessed an odd behavioral pattern of her husband. She has succumbed to his physical violence, mental harassments, all in the hope that things would work out well some day or other.
Almost similar are the cases of the other two of my friends. All three of them have now decided to break out of these barricades of relationships that have broken them down. They have decided to live life fully, new with the fresh breath of freedom that it would bring along with. Whatever happened till now in each of their lives has caused them enough pain. There have been times with my male friend & one of the female friends to succumb to the pressures & attempt suicide. But they have somehow survived out of it till now, and as I believe, for a reason.
Earlier, as I came close to each of these individuals, I was taken aback at the fragility of a relationship. I wondered as what it took for a marriage survive. One day as I talked it over to another close friend of mine he commented that it was plain understanding that one needed. One need not carry on with a relation that was proving to be unhealthy to the individual. A relation should not pose as suffocation; it rather should give you the support and energy that one requires while traveling from the downs of life.
In cases when the patience and energy of a person does not prove sufficient to work up on the relationship, one should just let it go – for the betterment of self and the other person.
All these friends of mine had expressed similar views over their divorces – they felt they were given a chance to enjoy life anew, freshly, without any chains of dead relations to hold them down.
Change is inevitable, even in relationships. Hence one needs a maturity to understand the changes that are happening with the other person and adapt to them or rather be in pace with them.
Life is quite simple, it should be kept that way, he added. I mused over it, and concluded that it is rather foolish of us to expect our lives to remain, as they were, picturesque. Were it to be so, it would be an actual organization chart and not a roller coaster ride, with its highs & lows.
From the depths of my heart I wish my friends the best that life has to offer them. The tunnel of darkness has proved to be quite long for them; I wish them a bright & a sunny opening…
Oh those times...
Was going through a real terrible patch in my life for the past four months or so. Was mostly in glum moods, tensed up by my problems. It was worsened by the fact that I could not share these with friends. Being an ever-smiling person always has its disadvantages. People just forget that you might have your blues too. Just two of my close friends knew what the problems were.
Anyways, in those days, a friend of mine suggested that I write down all my anxieties and fears that engulfed my mind. My writings had that “feel-good” factor, thought she. I should learn to face the bad times with my head up and write down in those times too, she added. I retorted back saying that it was not that I ran away from problems. I was just lazy enough not to work on them.
Most of the times when I am faced with a grim situation, I just keep it the way it is. Maybe it is my belief that tings work out, no matter what. Every problem has the seeds of a solution in it. Sounds stupid, I know. But trust me, it does not make sense to go on a world improvement crusade just like that. I mean, agreed, I work on it if it causes extreme pain or ache to self or someone close, but not beyond that. Maybe, it is my deeply ingrained belief that whatever happens, happens for a reason.
Anyways, I did take her advice seriously, and decided to jot down my thoughts, just for the sake that it might bring some pattern or direction to my thinking. But then, me being me, was so lazy even to grab a pen, that the time just slipped out of my hands. It has been this way numerous times. I have clouds of thoughts rolling around those grey cells in my head, but was sheer lazy to note them down.
Anyways, I am now doing perfectly fine (as always).
Anyways, in those days, a friend of mine suggested that I write down all my anxieties and fears that engulfed my mind. My writings had that “feel-good” factor, thought she. I should learn to face the bad times with my head up and write down in those times too, she added. I retorted back saying that it was not that I ran away from problems. I was just lazy enough not to work on them.
Most of the times when I am faced with a grim situation, I just keep it the way it is. Maybe it is my belief that tings work out, no matter what. Every problem has the seeds of a solution in it. Sounds stupid, I know. But trust me, it does not make sense to go on a world improvement crusade just like that. I mean, agreed, I work on it if it causes extreme pain or ache to self or someone close, but not beyond that. Maybe, it is my deeply ingrained belief that whatever happens, happens for a reason.
Anyways, I did take her advice seriously, and decided to jot down my thoughts, just for the sake that it might bring some pattern or direction to my thinking. But then, me being me, was so lazy even to grab a pen, that the time just slipped out of my hands. It has been this way numerous times. I have clouds of thoughts rolling around those grey cells in my head, but was sheer lazy to note them down.
Anyways, I am now doing perfectly fine (as always).
A thought…
How easy it is for a person to enter your life...and just how difficult to leave....
A really close friend of mine recently proposed his love to me. I declined it simply because I did not feel the same towards him. We are real close friends, he is an amazing person, the complete "perfect-bachelor-boy-package" -understanding, humorous, charming, from a well-to-do-family, good looks, et al.
I DID think twice before replying and it occurred to me that the four-letter word meant a lot. I couldn't force myself to complete the picture of a perfect lovey-dovey couple . . . try as I might.
At the same time, I am witnessing my two close friends getting separated from their respective life-partners. It is a hard time for both of my friends. Out of those two friends, the female friend of mine was talking to me about signing the divorce papers. I pondered over it for the rest of the evening...
a "yes" and a sign over a paper.
"in" and "out"
is life really this simple???
A really close friend of mine recently proposed his love to me. I declined it simply because I did not feel the same towards him. We are real close friends, he is an amazing person, the complete "perfect-bachelor-boy-package" -understanding, humorous, charming, from a well-to-do-family, good looks, et al.
I DID think twice before replying and it occurred to me that the four-letter word meant a lot. I couldn't force myself to complete the picture of a perfect lovey-dovey couple . . . try as I might.
At the same time, I am witnessing my two close friends getting separated from their respective life-partners. It is a hard time for both of my friends. Out of those two friends, the female friend of mine was talking to me about signing the divorce papers. I pondered over it for the rest of the evening...
a "yes" and a sign over a paper.
"in" and "out"
is life really this simple???
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